tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7464288477765297322.post450495911423878501..comments2023-10-07T10:09:03.954-04:00Comments on Inside A Mother's Heart: No Revoke Period~ What are your thoughts?Michellehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/05005536725335104357noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7464288477765297322.post-73966926697615192102007-08-13T12:51:00.000-04:002007-08-13T12:51:00.000-04:00I'm an adoptive mother. "No revoke period" is una...I'm an adoptive mother. "No revoke period" is unacceptable to me. <BR/><BR/>Hubby and I decided before we were ever "matched" with an expectant parent that if, after the 10 day revoc period and before the finalization of the adoption (at about six months) the mother of our child wanted to parent, we would not stand in her way. Before the 10 days are up, she could have asked the child be returnd to her, no questions asked. We would have been heartbroken but it would have been the right thing for us to do. After the 10 days, she would have had to contest formally, but as you said, I would not have been able to live with the fact that she regretted her decision to place her child with us. How would I explain that I kept them from their first family when indeed, they wanted to parent in the end. <BR/><BR/>I would advocate for an even longer revoc period in our province, although in both our situations, the other mothers of our children have stated that a longer revoc period would not have made a difference in their decision (in fact both had said that they felt a sense of relief when the 10 days were up). <BR/><BR/>AS for the deadline to sign, the new mother has to wait at least (and it is AT LEAST...) 24 hours before signing. I don't think that minimum time is long enough and I've said as much but the answers I get are all about the logistics of what to do with the baby if the new mother doesn't feel like she can care for the child at that moment, the paparents aren't willing to take the child with them until papers are signed and the hospital policy is dismissal within 24 hours if everyone is healthy. I find it unacceptable and encouraged DS's first mother to take a longer time if she needed it (was to naive/ignorant the first time around) but she refused. She had another son at home she wanted to get back to. <BR/><BR/>I for one don't understand how paparents can already be bonded that early to a child that isn't theirs. But then, both of our situations were very short (48 hours, 2 weeks) "matches". <BR/><BR/>Good grief... I went on and on. I just found you are appreciate your perspective. Will be back.Tammyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18045769392036053038noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-7464288477765297322.post-67129583554929045682007-08-12T15:45:00.000-04:002007-08-12T15:45:00.000-04:00I had to wait 72 hours. I didn't sign for almost ...I had to wait 72 hours. I didn't sign for almost 2 weeks. I could have taken longer but then started to hear "It is costing the pap's 25$ a day for foster mom." <BR/>No pressure --------- please.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com